A year ago today, I broke up with my boyfriend of more than two and half years. I thought he was the one for me, until I realized my dreams and aspirations were not a priority for him. And that is the biggest thing I have learned over the past year...
I should not compromise my true self for someone that is not willing to do the same. He should want me to become the best me and achieve all that aspire to.
I have grown as a person over the past year and learned many lessons. While being single, I have thoughts of qualities and characteristics that I want in my next boyfriend {and who potentially could be my future husband}. Some are serious and some are funny. I thought it would be interesting to share some with y'all every so often and get your feedback and some of your "requirements."
Christian
Respect his family, especially his momma
Treat me like a lady
Have manners and respect for all people
Be able to grow facial hair
Like sports more than I do
Enjoy being outside
Carolina fan {this might be negotiable}
Know how to shag {the dance} or be willing to learn
Can't think they are prettier than me
Sarcastic sense of humor
Believe in my dreams
This list is continuous and I will be sharing more.
As for me now, I am enjoying the single life. Don't get me wrong having a gentleman would be nice, but I am happy about where I am in my life.
Soulfully,
Ashton
I love the images you chose to go along with this post--they, and your words, definitely ring true!
ReplyDeleteOne of the things on my list was to find a man who would want to discuss politics in our underwear. Sounds silly but I am so passionate about politics and world affairs, I couldn't imagine not sharing that with the man I love. The good news is J loves discussing those things even more than I do :)
I didn't have this on my list, but after meeting the man I did marry, it hit me that all along that Someone To Laugh With should have been in the Top 3. That sounds SUPER cliche, I know - and I hate to even offer it b/c I HATE cliche....but, it's among the things that I love the most about my marriage, AND in retrospect, what I realized I had been missing with a few men who I thought had been The One.
ReplyDeleteReally like this post, really love your attitude about it all! You're a catch - and when you accept the right guy's bait you'll make him very lucky!
So good that you won't settle!! A lot of girls are not that smart!
ReplyDeleteLove love love this post (and the link to that Tumblr page as well)! Well said, and it may take time but I'm sure there is that perfect sports loving, respectful, funny and sarcastic guy -who is of course charming and good looking- just waiting for you somewhere :)
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ReplyDeleteI love this post. I broke up with my ex boyfriend when I realized he is only about his aspirations and not mine as well. He's there for me when its convenient for him...not when I need him to be there. It's so nice being single and finding out what you need to grow...I'm glad I was able to spend my last semester in college single and living my life for me. He's currently upset that I'm going to law school this fall and won't have time for him...so I get where you're coming from. I love how you're enjoying the single life and refusing to settle! One day it will definitely pay off!
ReplyDeleteThose quotes are the best and regarding your list--my favorites were Must be a Carolina fan and Grow Facial Hair. :)
ReplyDeleteI love this post!! and I love the quote "yes, I'm single. You're going to have to be fabulous to change that" SOOOO true! I am done with stuff that is too hard and I'm done with guys that are a waste of my time! They better have it together before they think we are going to get together... and yes, we both need guys that love sports more than us!
ReplyDeleteSO AWESOME!!! DO NOT SETTLE!! hold tight to your "list"! I too, thought that my ex "could" be the "one" but once i took a chance and put my faith in the Lord- knowing that He did have someone perfect for me and just me. He had someone who's personality and qualities fit with mine and that really do bring out the VERY best. I had lost hope at one point... and thought all the fairytale crap was ridiculous and we should learn to deal. but NO! i mean it's not always fairytale BUT there is someone that will fit YOU and God knows who he is, when he will come along, and how much yall will complete each other. Stay single and fun until that man really does SWEEP you off your feet. It WILL happen!!!
ReplyDeleteGreat list! Love the Christian and respect his family, especially his momma ones! This sounds cheesy, but you'll find him and it will be fabulous!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great list, and very similar to mine. I also broke up with a boyfriend around a year ago and it's been a "re-building year" as I call it - I always have these inbetween boyfriends. And it seems that during this time I always find out more about myself and what I want - and when I'm finally completely happy with who I am and enjoying life as it is instead of wishing for a guy one comes along....I'm still not to that point yet, but it's nice to know God always has a plan and that everything happens for a reason. Have a great weekend girl!
ReplyDeleteI adore this post Ashton! As I've mentioned before I dated a guy all through high school and then was single for the most part during college (had a few "things" with guys and one long on-again, off-again relationship for a while) but for the most part, I was single and I think it was the best thing for me. I was able to discover myself, learn to enjoy my independence and foster friendships with girlfriends and also come up with my own list like yours. Because of being single for so long I now know that I am more ready for a serious relationship when it comes along, but I haven't minded waiting!
ReplyDeleteAshton I totally feel you on this post! I broke after 7 years with my "one" and it has been the hardest thing I've had to deal with. Wishing you nothing but the best which is what you deserve!
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